To say you were, well, disappointing, would be an understatement.
2012 blew goats.
More specifically, I’ll say my 2012 dating life blew goats.
We started the year off with the “you overwhelm me” guy.
We went to dinner with Mr. Wrong…more than once…shame rattle.
And I was a bit of a good luck charm. Which culminated in my college bf getting married and my dad telling me I “missed the boat.” Bridget Jones much?
Even the NYT got in on the action. (Don’t worry, I haven’t yet turned into a pantless alcoholic…YET.)
We laughed a bit with the “I’m trying to have a creepy airport hookup in the sky lounge” guy.
And I was righteously angry at the “I’m ending it over text message less than 24 hours after telling you I really like you” guy.
Oh, and 2012 closed itself with a bang with the “you didn’t fake offer to pay for parking” guy. (Stay tuned, details to follow.)
2012 was a Bridget Jones meets a Taylor Swift song.
But I have high hopes for 2013. So I’m making some relationship resolutions.
- Develop a dating bill of rights. Every girl should have one. It’s the list of non-negotiables in a relationship. For me? It starts of with I deserve a phone call and not a text message, and that yes, titles do matter no matter how much you tell yourself they don’t. No grey areas. I’m also going to add that I need someone who supports my job, has a life outside of me, and likes my family (or at least is really good at faking it.)
- Read the writing on the wall. If you think things aren’t working, they probably aren’t. So walk away. It takes a lot of walk away, because you keep thinking that the other person will change or things will get better or it will be different in the new year. I’ve stayed in relationships for too long (and probably too many tear-filled phone calls to girlfriends) because I wasn’t willing to admit that I wasn’t happy and things weren’t working out. So read it, believe it, and act on it.
- Keep taking chances. It’s a rough world out there, and it takes a lot to keep putting yourself out there. Some days it will feel like you are feeding yourself to the wolves. But keep doing it. I haven’t found the right person yet, but I’ve learned a lot about what I like and what I don’t like, and about what goes on the dating bill of rights. So keep taking chances.
- Don’t recycle. If it didn’t work out the first time, there was probably a good reason. Don’t recycle relationships. It’s bad news bears.
So good riddance to bad rubbish 2012, and get ready 2013, because it’s time to rock on.